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    My lovebirds lonely, what should i do?

    I have had my female lovebird Misa for almost a year now, she is tamed so she doesnt bite me or anything. But shes my only bird, so she has no other bird to socialise with. Ive been very busy lately, so ive been unable to spend time with her. Today, she has started mating with one of her toys >___> So should i buy a male lovebird? I dont want her to suddenly ignore me though if i did get one, i was thinking that i should get a normal untamed male from the pet shop or something for her. Please help >.<

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    Re: My lovebirds lonely, what should i do?

    Quote Originally Posted by Tayli View Post
    I have had my female lovebird Misa for almost a year now, she is tamed so she doesnt bite me or anything. But shes my only bird, so she has no other bird to socialise with. Ive been very busy lately, so ive been unable to spend time with her. Today, she has started mating with one of her toys >___> So should i buy a male lovebird? I dont want her to suddenly ignore me though if i did get one, i was thinking that i should get a normal untamed male from the pet shop or something for her. Please help >.<
    You shouldn't think that just because she is mating with one of her toys means she needs a male. Especially if you are not looking eggs, or if you are not prepared or ready for breeding. Let's just get this straight; you don't NEED a male at all right now. There are other better solutions to this problem, and I think this should be your LAST resort.

    The only reason you should get another bird, is if YOU want it. If your bird is doing this, you could try a few methods people use to keep their fids from becoming nesty.

    These include:
    - Shortening daylight hours
    - Removing Shreddable items from their access (In cage, and where ever else they can get them)
    - Not scritching around back, tummy, or encouraging this behaviour
    - Cutting back any extra food that they don't need (Extra fat, and protein diets could also encourage mating behaviour)

    And many more other tips that people could let you know. I'd just say forget all about getting a male or other bird, and focus on your current bird right now. Give her foraging toys, and other ones that could keep her occupied. (Try to avoid shreddable ones) Turn on music to help fill her loneliness, and keep her 'company'.

    Are you sure she is bored? Or is she just being treated so well that she thinks it is a good time to be starting to nest?

    Maybe you are just over-thinking and worrying about this, try to calm your self, and not to worry about getting another bird. I'm sure you will become less busy soon, and your bird won't hate you for it at all.


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    Re: My lovebirds lonely, what should i do?

    Ive been very busy lately, so ive been unable to spend time with her.
    Beware of permanent solutions to temporary problems (as in I agree, dont get another bird since you would now have 2 birds you cant pay attention to). At some point you'll be back to spending some time with your bird. Can you even just sit near her while doing your work? My Ham is just fine if I am in the same room.
    We got lots of Ham here

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    Re: My lovebirds lonely, what should i do?

    is mating with toys the only reason you think she is lonely?
    Coz my little Sammy has turned into a hump machine- and while i am in the same room he'll do it. he's been known to willingly go in his cage without prompt to rubby rub. this from a bird who has to be bribed to go to bed.

    Take it as a compliment your bird is happy, content and well looked after. then try and stop it. if you have a female allowing this behaviour is opening the door to a raft of trouble- from eggs to overproduction of bile and the associated illnesses

    is she definately a she?


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    Re: My lovebirds lonely, what should i do?

    im going to disagree
    i think the least we can do is provide company for our birds
    yep they may not talk but honestly i dont see the difference between our birds and the solo birds that people have
    ours live in flocks...they have each no matter what and they dont screech like the lone birds do..they dont get stressed when we leave the room
    they do stress and call if someone is missing...a bird out of the flock
    the princess is a handraised bird as are the others but it is still part of this flock we have and will call if separated or removed

    i cant think that any bird should be alone...even if it doesnt have a companion of the same species which is usually preferrable but not always possible
    none of our animals are solo pets..but i think birds especially need at least one companion..be it female or male ..and i think that should happen quite early in the piece ...to ensure that the birds grow up ok with each other
    there is a risk that your bird wont accept another of your choosing
    love birds live in huge flocks in africa so they are extra territorial and may not be as social as other birds who live in smaller flocks
    it is a hard decision but i always encourage people to buy two of any species if they possibly can

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    Re: My lovebirds lonely, what should i do?

    I have to agree with sweetytweety.

    All of my birds (larger parrots and lovebirds) have companions. I cannot be there for my personal pets at night and lovebirds love to cuddle when sleeping. That's beyond my capability. Even if they live in separate cages, they are still there for each other. My personal pets are all tame and as long as they get attention from me, they remain that way, even if they are bonded to their feathered companions.
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    Re: My lovebirds lonely, what should i do?

    I'm sorry, but adding another bird into a situation where there is not enough time for the first is just asking for trouble. Plus it can be very difficult to introduce new lovebirds to each other, if it works out at all. All you have to do is look at leebee's post to realize that. You have to worry about fighting, biting, and possibly even injury or death. If the OP does not have time to spend with the first bird, I'm going to guess that she doesn't have the additional time required to introduce a new bird to the flock.

    Something we also have to realize is that animals do not NEED to mate and have babies. Most, like Helen's Sammy and my little bub, are perfectly happy to swish-swish to their toys and then go about their day. IF you did add a bird, I would strongly encourage you to have the original bird DNA sexed and only add a guaranteed same-sex cage partner.

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    Re: My lovebirds lonely, what should i do?

    i wouldnt add a partner
    Sammy is a single bird and probably will be all his life- definately for now. I know this bird, and i see his interactikons with the birds of my friends. Yes he loves them, and loves having buddies- for a while. then he stops liking it and starts getting nippy and needs to be seperated by force before someone loses a toe or head!

    I;m sorry- but i have to say that the people who claim parrots, and especially lovebirds, NEED other birds dont really understand pet parrots. They dont need other birds to be happy, especially ones who have the territorial attitudes of the lovebirds. Look at the awful decision Lee bee is having to make at the moment- He could not be a better owner- his set up and the care he gives his fids is top notch- literally couldnt be better.

    and how many ppl here have 2 lovies- who now have to live in seperate cages?

    if you dont have time for one bird, you REALLY dont have time for 2


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    Re: My lovebirds lonely, what should i do?

    If a single bird has to spend the whole day alone in its cage then it is just sad. In such instance it WOULD be much happier to have a friend.

    The best thing I ever done was get a 2nd lovebird. Look and feel so much better, like nature intended.

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    Re: My lovebirds lonely, what should i do?

    One question!!
    Can a lovebird be friends with my two parakeets?!!

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    Re: My lovebirds lonely, what should i do?

    ummmm
    that very, very much depends on your lovie. My last one was- and would actually snuggle and sleep with them- she had a real soft spot for my nan's special need bug, and the couple of photos i have of them together (this was a lot of years ago)she is half protecting them from the evil camera lol

    that said i wouldnt trust Sammy with my nans new bug. He can chatter to him through the cage, but that's it. he's just too hyper and quick and gets over excited too fast- but then he is young still so might mellow with age. I certainly wouldnt let them in each others cages as that can lead very quickly to territorial issues. The only time Sammy has really had me is messing with his toys in his cage- if a smaller, more defensless bird touched his bally? i dont even want to go there.

    Only you know your birds, and they can be neighbours, but bear in mind your lovie has a huge beak and is stronger than your bugs and could quite easily kill them. But then again they can kill another lovie too. badly named little critters lol


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    Re: My lovebirds lonely, what should i do?

    A single bird alone in their cage is not sad if that's how they prefer it. Tini does not like other birds...she is a hand-raised, person bird. She prefers people, not birds. We are her flock. When we are home, she is out. And when we're not, she's in her house with her toys and she's fine. When we leave, we leave the TV on for her also.

    At one point, we had added a black-capped conure into our flock and man-oh-man was that trouble. She was actually okay with him until he made an aggressive move and then it was all over. They still can't be friends and he lives with my brother. When we had him they had separate cages, separate out of cages times, etc.

    She doesn't mind tweeting and chattering and talking to the other bird (a cockatiel and conure) when we visit my parents, but she doesn't want them anywhere near her, her people, or her stuff. Period.

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    Re: My lovebirds lonely, what should i do?

    I'll start with the fact that I do not have lovebirds. My tiels have definitely become a flock tho Sonny & Peeps are a couple, Theo and Indie aren't; the tiels share 1 larger cage which is open. My gccs (Beni & Loki) are a couple and they share 1 cage. My two Quaker boys share a cage that they eat & sleep in but that is about it; Baby hangs out on top of the fridge or on playstands and JJ hangs out on the top of the 3 cages w/Beni. Daisy, my newest Quaker, has her own cage and has shown little to no interest in exploring other cages.

    The tiels are the most peaceful and least likely to start anything unless Theo chases Sonny because he's jealous of Peeps (Theo can't fly so it never comes to much). The gccs will go out of their way to chase anyone they feel deserves to be chased at any time.

    BUT take any one bird out of the room, specially in a carrier, and all hell breaks loose in the house to the point that I can hear them from outside inside the car with the house windows closed. And whoever is in the carrier is usually screamming blue murder.

    AND none of the birds were purchased/adopted at the same time or together and I do work full time.

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    Re: My lovebirds lonely, what should i do?

    A happy lovie is a rub rubbing lovie, especially if its a male lovie. Are you sure your Misa is a girl and not a boy in disguise?
    Fly Free Boomer, we will forever love you.

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    Re: My lovebirds lonely, what should i do?

    Well, her breeder told me they checked with DNA and that she was female...Is there a possibility that maybe DNA checks could be wrong?

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    Re: My lovebirds lonely, what should i do?

    i've heard of it. But i think it is usually human error- such as labeling the wrong feathers, or getting the results mixed up.
    After Sammy is done rubbing (and believe me you know!) you can actually see a little pin drop size of liquid where he's done. Try looking for that?


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    Re: My lovebirds lonely, what should i do?

    I bought a bonded pair of Lovies from someone close by. While they were outside one day, one escaped. I felt awful for the lone lovie left. So...I went and bought another, it even looked the exact same That was 4 months ago and they still can't be housed in the same cage together, although they can have out of cage time now without trying to bite each others toes off. It's been a long and difficult process trying to get these two together and I don't think they'll ever be able to live in the same cage.

    Just giving my situation. I'm sure others will be different. Next time, I don't think I would get another.

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