I have to preface this thread by stating that I am grateful for any gifts I get for the baby at all. Some wonderful people have spent their money on very thoughtful gifts already, including an adorable pair of 0-3 mo booties from my friend Robin who posts here occasionally, and who I have been emailing for a few years. It warms my heart that my baby girl has so many friends and extended family.
Now here is my concern:
I am having two showers. Joe's mom is throwing me one and my mom is throwing another the next day. I have felt for some time that starting a registry is sort of presumptuous -- I suppose because an overgrown delinquent cousin of mine who keeps squeezing out kids is always sending out gift solicitations with her registry information printed on them, and it is all I can do not to call her and explain that she's lucky we don't all box up our garbage and send it to her for all the gratitude she ever shows us. (I know that sounds harsh but she is rude and absent from all family functions that don't include gifts for her, I have never heard her say thank you to anyone once.)
My mom convinced me that my situation is a bit different, and that I shouldn't feel guilty over telling my guests the things I will need. So I registered at Walmart.com, since they offer low prices and convenient free site-to-store shipping that will be easier on my guests' wallets than paid shipping. My mother printed out an insert with the registry information and affixed it to the invitations she & I sent out nearly a month ago.
The shower is in 4 weeks and I have checked my registry once a week to get a feel for what I still need to buy. To date I have received one monitor (a gift I asked my father to buy Arden, since it was too expensive to expect from anyone else) and a pack of receiving blankets.
Time is ticking away and I REALLY desire some of this stuff. I want to start buying it up myself so I will be prepared, since some of those supplies and accessories will make raising her in a cramped one-bedroom apartment for six months much easier. Almost everything on there is $20 or less, so if I buckle down now I can still fix my air conditioner, buy my air purifier, pay all my bills and buy up all 30 or so items on the registry in time for her arrival.
I'm trying not to tax my budget unnecessarily but I'd like to be prepared. Should I just eke out enough to live and save all of my money until after the shower, so I can buy this stuff for myself? Or is last minute shower shopping so common that I'm worried prematurely?
I kind of feel like I screwed up depending upon my guests to get me anything I'll actually need. Now I am down to the 11th hour, and I am really freaking out. A lot of them aren't exactly loaded, and I'm just happy they plan upon showing up to celebrate with me. I feel like the gifts should really be incidental.